Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Set Those BIG Goals Today

One of my favourite professional speeches is entitled Goals to Gold!

I love delivering it to diverse audiences because of the visible evidence I detect each time, without fail, as different members of those disparate groups begin to realise – often for the very first time – that this isn’t all there is to their lives.

Not By A Long Shot!

They, as well as you and I, can and should dare to aspire to be, have and do much, much, much more.

I must warn you, though, I draw the line this side of the REAL world! That means I don’t believe achieving every conceivable goal is possible.

Of course it isn’t!

But a lot more grand, sometimes even grandiose, goals are attainable than we give ourselves credit for; although their final realisation sometimes doesn’t quite match our original conception. Consider what diva Madonna said way, way back in 1992, “I have the same goal I’ve had ever since I was a girl. I want to rule the world.” (Perhaps Argentina, on the big screen, was a stepping stone for her?)

Big or small, the most effective first step toward achieving anything, as personal leadership guru Stephen Covey so succinctly puts it, is to ‘begin with the end in mind’.

This advice has direct relevance to financial planning, which is defined by the Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards as ‘the process of meeting your life goals through the proper management of your finances’.

In my opinion, the four most crucial words of that financial planning definition are ‘meeting your life goals’.

So let me ask you: What are your life goals?

I’m sure you can rattle off many small goals. Inconsequential ones like finishing this article before lunch, completing that project at work next week, or going on holiday in three months.

I’m also certain you can list some significant goals with longer time horizons, such as achieving a great retirement for yourself and your spouse or funding your kids’ tertiary education or building a business.

Being able to articulate those goals is a great start. But what I’ve learnt from my consulting clients, over the years and across the miles, is that most people – even those with ‘loadsa money’ – have trouble defining great goals that genuinely, truly

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them beyond self-imposed limits.

In the interests of full disclosure I must admit I’ve also had the intriguing privilege of dealing with a few clients who regularly set goals so grand – well… grandiose, actually – that I have had to rein them in!

By And Large, However, Most People Have Trouble Setting Sizable Goals

Why is that?

After a great deal of thought and observation, I’ve come to the conclusion that the two big reasons are – surprise, surprise! – environmental and hereditary.

Our Environment Shapes Us

Marine biology studies provide us with an interesting perspective on this phenomenon. If you put a young fish in a small aquarium, what usually happens over time is that the fish grows in size, BUT its maximum size at maturity is limited by the space available. It remains small.

But if you were to put another young fish from the same batch into a huge pool, it is likely to grow to gargantuan proportions in comparison to its relatively incarcerated sibling.

Similarly, people who are able to set huge goals tend to come from homes that were ‘spacious’ with encouragement.

Those who can’t set big goals often seem to have grown up in families where praise was absent or extended grudgingly.

Heredity Also Affects Us

But, personally, I don’t believe it comes anywhere near environment as being the key determinant of how people turn out.

The bad news is nothing can be done about the genes we inherited from our parents, or about the type of home or school environment that shaped us during our formative years.

But the – more important – good news is that an act of our will can override many aspects of ‘lousy internal programming’.

Human beings have a ‘divine spark’, for want of a better description, which allows us to make choices.

For instance, we can choose to exercise delayed gratification or to live it up today!

We can choose to save and invest 30% of our income or to squander 120% of that income each month! We can choose, as adults, to invest 10% of our resources in our ongoing personal education or we can choose to stop learning the moment we leave school or university!

Which choices appeal to you? Why?

I have learnt that at the heart of every ‘good’ decision is a willingness to take the long view, to begin every task with the final end burned into our mind’s eye.

So, to help you, I will share a framework for goal-setting that should increase your chances of sticking to any crucial task longer than most others will.

That by itself, over time, WILL escalate the odds of your reaching each crucial goal you set for yourself.

You are free to use this recipe in setting major financial goals, but please don’t limit yourself. This algorithm (or recipe) will work with all types of goals, including physical, material, social, spiritual and professional ones.

There are three parts to this easy-to-follow framework:

1. Choose monster goals;

2. Take a long time defining these ‘Godzillas’; and

3. Think on paper, as you give yourself permission to run picture-perfect mental movies of an awesome future.

1. Choose monster goals – only big goals are worthy of our greatest attention, fiercest passion and deepest commitment. Only massive goals have that magical capacity to fire up your imagination for the months, years and decades of painstaking implementation required to achieve them!

2. Take your time defining these ‘Godzilla’ goals – once you embark on a programme of goal-determination, realise you will become – beneficially – addicted to the process. It will take you anything between 20 and 50 hours (and in some cases more) of concentrated thought and directed daydreaming to detect the big goals you’re willing to give your life to accomplishing. (For specific guidance on how to ‘dream’ effectively prior to goal-setting,

3. Think on paper – write down each major goal as you decide upon it. Write them in the active voice, and in the present tense, and keep rewriting them.

According to author-consultant Brian Tracy, our subconscious can only go to work on ‘factual’ statements in the present tense, such as, “I am a millionaire” or “I have achieved financial freedom”. If you feel uncomfortable stating things that are not true, then don’t think of it as lying to yourself right now but as telling yourself the truth in advance!

Also, for financial goals, put realistic present values or costs in implementing them now. Then roll them forward and take into account the ballooning effect of inflation on ‘actual’ future prices.

If you take all three steps, you will have begun the process of beginning with the end in mind. So, once started, don’t stop.


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Don't Let Go Of Your Dreams - Not Again!

You wake up screaming!

Your spouse calms you down; reassuring you it was just another nightmare.

Even as you settle back and start drifting into slumber again, you wonder why the only dreams you have nowadays are bad ones.

What happened to your once fertile imagination that was able to conjure exciting, almost always enjoyable dreams; pleasurable mental movies you could play against the screen of your inner eyelids day or night, awake or asleep?

The problem so many of us face in daily life is one of encroaching walls; figurative rock faces that creep toward us inexorably, leaving us with less and less room to manoeuvre.

If you remember the trash compressor scene in Star Wars where Han Solo, Princess Leia and Luke Skywalker are trapped, we’ll be on the same wavelength!

When we were younger, it seemed our imaginations allowed us to roam the world, making it our stage or better yet our playground.

But we allowed ourselves to grow up - and not always in the right way. Many of us have lost the ability to dream big, great dreams that fuel mental excursions.

And that’s tragic, because those exciting journeys within our skulls are the only things that permit us to grow beyond the normal confines of our too often drab lives.

Thankfully, none of us has totally lost that ability to dream and imagine. I can prove it!

When you’re stuck behind a desk that seems to have grown shackles that attach themselves to your ankles and wrists, don’t you readily dream of a better place, a better way of life?

The problem is those dreams tend not to last too long. Someone or something is always crashing into our reality, bringing us back to earth with a rather hard bump.

But if we want to lay claim to a life that is bigger than the one we now live, we must recapture that long-lost childhood facility to dream good dreams for sustained periods.

You see, being able to see beyond things as they are now, through rosy mists of future probability and then perceiving them as they might be, is the common denominator of life’s big winners.

If they can do it, so can you, because all of humanity shares that God-given endowment. As Stephen Covey puts it, “In addition to self-awareness, we have imagination - the ability to create in our minds beyond our present reality.”

If you use your ability to imagine properly, it will expand into one of the most potent time management tools at your disposal - your capacity to idealise and dream of a better future.

Of course, we all know people who do nothing but dream. I’m not asking you to become such an airhead. I’m saying you need to give yourself permission to look beyond perhaps the grey, drab walls of your existence and ask yourself if this is the rich, abundant life God created you for.

Most people would have to say NO.

That would be a great first step.

The second is to grant yourself permission to daydream actively for short spells at a time - even if it is only for 30 seconds while stuck in a traffic jam. (Of course, if you commute to work using public transport, you have even more time at your disposal.)

So, get a dedicated little notebook and jot down whatever comes to mind during these brief, but precious mental excursions.

MY OWN EXPERIENCE

I remember doing a similar exercise about a decade ago, when I felt trapped in a great paying job that was nonetheless squeezing every drop of joy out of my life.

And so I dreamt and wrote, wrote and dreamt, and then wrote some more.

If you think that a similar exercise will help you detect what’s important to you, then you really should get to know yourself better by tapping into your dream bank.

Most people know how to dream at night. But they have a problem retaining their far more vital lifetime dreams within a solid framework for awakened review.

Such a pragmatic framework allows those who know how to go about it well to follow up on those dreams, to prioritise them, then to take action on the most exciting ones.

Are you among those who want to recapture lost dreams but are not sure how to do so?

After a long while of working through practical exercises of dream harvesting, I began noticing a pattern in where my thoughts kept taking me.

I spent a long time charting my dreams and thoughts. Then came the time to stop dreaming and to take action!

I had to gather my courage and walk away from the security of that soul-sapping high-paying job onto a path only dimly lit by the lamp of those written dreams.

Since then, some months, even years, have been very hard. But looking back, it’s been worth it to get from there to here.

I’m not asking you to quit your job. Just to give yourself permission to start to dream again.

And then to have the courage to pursue the right dreams.

In this context, I love what Benjamin Franklin once wrote, “To be thrown upon one’s own resources is to be cast into the very lap of fortune; for our faculties then undergo a development and display an energy of which they were previously unsusceptible.”

And so, the way I see it, finding the courage to reignite your latent ability to dream and having the discipline to record those dreams is just a tiny, tiny step away from giving yourself permission to truly start living again!


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Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Funny Videos - banned commercials - Toilette


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Monday, October 15, 2007

'Mistaken Identity'

watch this video.. i am actor in this video..


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Friday, October 12, 2007

Amitabh Entry in Don (1978)


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Are Diwano Mujhe Pehchano - Don


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Shah Rukh Khan - Dil Se... - Dil Se Re


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Main Hoon Don - Don - Shahrukh Khan


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Tuesday, October 09, 2007

Best of YouTube


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bollywood actor Shahrukh Khan


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Kal Ho Naa Ho Title song


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